{"id":85228,"date":"2025-07-17T19:13:50","date_gmt":"2025-07-17T09:13:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/?p=85228"},"modified":"2025-07-24T20:01:13","modified_gmt":"2025-07-24T10:01:13","slug":"travel-after-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/travel-after-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"Travel after divorce: how a group trip helped me heal\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>When Lisa&#8217;s life took a detour and she found herself facing divorce, the future suddenly felt uncertain. But she knew one thing for sure: when it came to the division of assets, she was getting the family trip to Southeast Asia.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The year my marriage fell apart, I flew to <a href=\"\/vietnam\/hanoi\">Hanoi<\/a>. Twelve months prior, our family of three had calendared the next year&#8217;s trips, each choosing a destination. My husband chose Spain, our 15-year-old daughter, Sophie, chose Italy and I chose <a href=\"\/vietnam\">Vietnam<\/a> and <a href=\"\/cambodia\">Cambodia<\/a>.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We\u2019d travelled to Spain, eating crisp-skinned suckling pig in the shadow of the Alhambra. We&#8217;d travelled to Italy, bathing in the scent of lemon blossoms on the Amalfi Coast. Then, over dinner one January night, seemingly out of nowhere, my husband said &#8216;My soul is deeply unhappy. I want a divorce.&#8217;\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The gutting of our 20-year coupling left me gasping for air. Our plans for the future, once discussed over morning cappuccinos at home in New Jersey, were now hatched between lawyers whose aim was transactional: extinguish the marriage and divide its assets. I felt powerless as drafts of a settlement agreement volleyed between lawyers who seemed more in control of my life than I was.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8216;What do you want from your future?&#8217; A friend asked one day as I sobbed on her sofa.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I hesitated. It had been a long time since I\u2019d been anything but a wife and mother. I wasn&#8217;t accustomed to considering my own desires.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8216;I want to travel,&#8217; I said, feeling the weighty truth of my words. I thought of my lost trip to Vietnam and Cambodia. It had fallen away in the implosion of our marriage.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I Googled trips to the region and found Intrepid&#8217;s <a href=\"\/vietnam\/best-vietnam-cambodia-160544\">Best of Vietnam and Cambodia<\/a>. I&#8217;d never taken a group trip and wasn&#8217;t sure I\u2019d like the format \u2013 my husband and I had always travelled independently. But, in the stupor of divorce, the heady logistics of trip-planning felt impossible.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I asked my lawyer to add the tour to our settlement agreement. &#8216;It&#8217;s non-negotiable,&#8217; I said. Anticipating the trip gave me something to hold onto \u2013 something that was mine.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide size-full\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1080\" src=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Vietnam-halong-bay-wide-shot-boats_4049-2.jpg\" alt=\"Halong Bay, Vietnam\" class=\"wp-image-85240\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Vietnam-halong-bay-wide-shot-boats_4049-2.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Vietnam-halong-bay-wide-shot-boats_4049-2-425x239.jpg 425w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Vietnam-halong-bay-wide-shot-boats_4049-2-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Vietnam-halong-bay-wide-shot-boats_4049-2-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Vietnam-halong-bay-wide-shot-boats_4049-2-1170x658.jpg 1170w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Vietnam-halong-bay-wide-shot-boats_4049-2-585x329.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>A journey of self rediscovery<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Sophie and I landed in Hanoi on a blazing hot day in June. Our Intrepid group was a mix of friendly travellers from New Zealand, the UK and Australia. I liked them immediately. The stories we shared over dinner were real \u2013 one couple had lost their son; a young woman was struggling with the challenges of her job. Their vulnerability allowed me to share that I was getting divorced, which set an authentic tone for the trip. I could be myself.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Braving new waters<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>We travelled first to Halong Bay, boarding a wooden &#8216;junk boat&#8217; whose name belied its luxurious cabins and delicious meals. With a magician&#8217;s sleight of hand, the chef carved carrot strips into intricate rosebuds, adding them to a sumptuous lunch of spongy fish cake, savoury pork, and squid seared with onions and peppers.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After lunch, we slipped into the clear, green waters of the bay. A year ago, I wouldn&#8217;t have done it \u2013 wildly self-conscious of my middle-aged body in a swimsuit. But I&#8217;d fought hard for this trip, and I was committed to experiencing every bit of it. Pushing past my insecurity I waded in, welcomed by the water&#8217;s healing embrace.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Making new connections<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Moving on to Hue, we took a motorbike tour of the ancient imperial city. After my long marriage, I felt awkward wrapping my arms around the cigarette-scented driver.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8216;What&#8217;s your name?&#8217; he asked, bike jumping to life. &#8216;Lisa,&#8217; I told him.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8216;My name is Ku,&#8217; he said, taking my hand.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ku was a retired high school French and English teacher, living in the mountains above Hue. &#8216;It\u2019s cheaper up there,&#8217; he said, pointing to the green hills framing the city. &#8216;I save my earnings for my children&#8217;s education.&#8217;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8216;Me too!&#8217; I said, smiling at the universal connection of parenthood.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I held onto Ku&#8217;s waist, exhilarated by the hot wind in my hair as we careened through narrow streets, stopping at temples and tombs. My heart lurched when we turned sharply on loose gravel, but Ku made me feel safe as he gently strapped my helmet under my chin each time we got on and off the bike.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide size-full\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1080\" src=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-vietnam_hoi-an_1B2A7733.jpg\" alt=\"A woman admires glowing lanterns in Hoi An, Vietnam\" class=\"wp-image-85238\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-vietnam_hoi-an_1B2A7733.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-vietnam_hoi-an_1B2A7733-425x239.jpg 425w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-vietnam_hoi-an_1B2A7733-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-vietnam_hoi-an_1B2A7733-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-vietnam_hoi-an_1B2A7733-1170x658.jpg 1170w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-vietnam_hoi-an_1B2A7733-585x329.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Seeing the light<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The group spent two nights in Hoi An, where darkened alleys glowed with paper lanterns, colours vivid like candies in a dish. Wishing on lit candles, we sent them floating downriver. I wished that my path forward would be illuminated, like the candescent waterway. With our new Aussie friends, we scoured the night market for banana-printed bucket hats, laughing when Sophie negotiated the best price. For the first time in months, divorce took a backseat to the pleasure of the moment.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>From the urban bustle of <a href=\"\/vietnam\/ho-chi-minh-city\">Ho Chi Minh City<\/a>, we took a day trip to the Cu Chi tunnels. Dug by the South Vietnamese Army, they are an elaborate web of subterranean passages, bedrooms, kitchens and even birthing rooms. At their apex, they housed 16,000 people. The tunnels felt claustrophobic. <em>Like my marriage,<\/em> I realised for the first time as I hoisted myself out of the tiny hole with my own strong arms.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:40px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-gallery alignwide has-nested-images columns-default is-cropped wp-block-gallery-1 is-layout-flex wp-block-gallery-is-layout-flex\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1080\" data-id=\"85321\" src=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Urban-Adventures-Cambodia_Siem-Reap_Angkor-Wat_Lilypads_Water.jpg\" alt=\"Angkor Wat in the sunshine, reflected in a lily-pad-studded pool\" class=\"wp-image-85321\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Urban-Adventures-Cambodia_Siem-Reap_Angkor-Wat_Lilypads_Water.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Urban-Adventures-Cambodia_Siem-Reap_Angkor-Wat_Lilypads_Water-425x239.jpg 425w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Urban-Adventures-Cambodia_Siem-Reap_Angkor-Wat_Lilypads_Water-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Urban-Adventures-Cambodia_Siem-Reap_Angkor-Wat_Lilypads_Water-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Urban-Adventures-Cambodia_Siem-Reap_Angkor-Wat_Lilypads_Water-1170x658.jpg 1170w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Urban-Adventures-Cambodia_Siem-Reap_Angkor-Wat_Lilypads_Water-585x329.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1081\" data-id=\"85320\" src=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_1470.jpg\" alt=\"Lisa and Sophie at Angkor Wat, Cambodia\" class=\"wp-image-85320\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_1470.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_1470-425x239.jpg 425w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_1470-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_1470-1536x865.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_1470-1170x659.jpg 1170w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_1470-585x329.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:40px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>A new dawn<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>On 2 July, our wedding anniversary, an alarm of roosters and barking dogs woke me at 4:30 am. Now in <a href=\"\/cambodia\/siem-reap\">Siem Reap<\/a>, Cambodia, we&#8217;d toured <a href=\"\/cambodia\/angkor-wat-from-phnom-penh\">Angkor Wat<\/a>&#8216;s temples the day before and were returning today for the iconic sunrise view of the conical towers in the reflecting pool.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8216;I&#8217;m staying in bed,&#8217; Sophie said. It was early for a teen. I left her asleep and hopped in a tuk-tuk with the others.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Our group dispersed at the temple complex, leaving me alone to watch the undersides of clouds transform from foggy grey to cream to peach to pink. With the rising sun, the reflection of Angkor Wat developed like a slow Polaroid, its plump asparagus-like heads materialising in the murky water. For the first time since the breakup, I was exactly where I wanted to be.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>After the steamy sunrise, I sought refuge from the heat inside a temple. As I sat cross-legged on the warm sandstone floor, the sky, now aquamarine, poured through the open ceiling. It had been the same colour on my wedding day. I&#8217;d dreaded this anniversary since we separated but now that it was here, I didn&#8217;t feel despair. I&#8217;d watched the day dawn at Angkor Wat. I made this happen.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:40px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-gallery alignwide has-nested-images columns-default is-cropped wp-block-gallery-2 is-layout-flex wp-block-gallery-is-layout-flex\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1920\" height=\"1080\" data-id=\"85322\" src=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Cambodia-Siem-Reap-Angkor-Wat-Anna-3.jpg\" alt=\"A hand on the intricate stonework of Angkor Wat\" class=\"wp-image-85322\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Cambodia-Siem-Reap-Angkor-Wat-Anna-3.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Cambodia-Siem-Reap-Angkor-Wat-Anna-3-425x239.jpg 425w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Cambodia-Siem-Reap-Angkor-Wat-Anna-3-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Cambodia-Siem-Reap-Angkor-Wat-Anna-3-1536x864.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Cambodia-Siem-Reap-Angkor-Wat-Anna-3-1170x658.jpg 1170w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-Cambodia-Siem-Reap-Angkor-Wat-Anna-3-585x329.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1920px) 100vw, 1920px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1255\" height=\"1920\" data-id=\"85324\" src=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-cambodia_angkor-wat_monks-smile-1255x1920.jpg\" alt=\"A monk in orange robes smiles at the camera\" class=\"wp-image-85324\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-cambodia_angkor-wat_monks-smile-scaled.jpg 1255w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-cambodia_angkor-wat_monks-smile-196x300.jpg 196w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-cambodia_angkor-wat_monks-smile-768x1175.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-cambodia_angkor-wat_monks-smile-1004x1536.jpg 1004w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-cambodia_angkor-wat_monks-smile-1339x2048.jpg 1339w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-cambodia_angkor-wat_monks-smile-1920x2937.jpg 1920w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-cambodia_angkor-wat_monks-smile-1170x1790.jpg 1170w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/Intrepid-Travel-cambodia_angkor-wat_monks-smile-585x895.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1255px) 100vw, 1255px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1280\" height=\"1920\" data-id=\"85323\" src=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_3832-1280x1920.jpg\" alt=\"An orange-clad knee of a monk peeks out from behind a pillar at Angkor Wat\" class=\"wp-image-85323\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_3832-scaled.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_3832-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_3832-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_3832-1024x1536.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_3832-1365x2048.jpg 1365w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_3832-1170x1755.jpg 1170w, https:\/\/www.intrepidtravel.com\/adventures\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/IMG_3832-585x878.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1280px) 100vw, 1280px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:40px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Nearby, an orange-swaddled knee poked out from behind a pillar. A young monk began his day, chanting a melodic prayer that rose and fell in rhythmic waves. I would begin again, too.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As the sun rose through the fog that day, I glimpsed, for the first time, the possibilities awaiting me as a solo female traveller. In my darkest days, this trip had been a ray of hope, showing me the transformative power of living on my own terms.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Since then, I\u2019ve travelled with Intrepid on three continents. I&#8217;ve also travelled independently, with friends, with Sophie and alone. The trip to Vietnam and Cambodia taught me I was brave enough to go anywhere I wanted. That the future wasn\u2019t going to be what I\u2019d anticipated, but it was mine.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Lisa and Sophie explored the <\/strong><a href=\"\/vietnam\/best-vietnam-cambodia-160544\"><strong>Best of Vietnam and Cambodia<\/strong><\/a><strong> on a small group adventure. 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